So... ive had a bland last few days... except for two things- here i go:
The first weird thing is that my friend, crush, and longtime challenge, B , started t-bombing me a tonsies. its weird, he loves complimenting me, but it might just be cuz im a complimentary person, and he got used to it. its nice tho. he'll text me every once in a while, i'll text him every once in a while. a conversation will start. its pretty awesomesauce( ED:i originally typed that as awesome but decided to change it, awesomesauce is so much thicker than awesome). so yeah.
Thing the second:
i was texting eirey who's a totally "straight" boy... and i realized something. i was talking about what it means to be gay... i tried to explain it, but i remembered how the label doesnt really work. i just ended up saying "sex and relationships are neither integrally related nor mutually exclusive. i was telling him bout how guys dont need to reject sexual relations with someone because theyre "straight", just as i dont reject female relations because im "gay". lets face it- sex feels good no matter what, so why should we live in fear of it? we make sex(happen?), sex doesnt make us(well... not in the literal sense). feel free to limit your relationships to whatever works best for you, but sex, in moderation of course, is good for you. ive always said, try everything once- cuz guys are awesome, but girls are too. refuse labels- let sex be sex and love be love.
tokyo center, mike2 requesting touch-and-go, off to bigger and better.
tokyo center, mike2, out.
I've always said that the difference between "best friend" and "boyfriend" is how intimacy is expressed, not the fact of intimacy. The same holds true with guys or girls, straight or gay.
ReplyDeleteWe label things because that's how our minds work: pattern recognition based on common traits/experiences. We can't stop ourselves from doing it, but we can certainly do our best to see beyond labels as much as possible.
yeah... i know what you mean. i just hate liking guys and getting turned down solely because they think they dont want guys. that sounds more haughty than i meant it to, but its true- people need to open their minds up.
ReplyDeleteSounds good, but personally- I'm afraid of the intimacy; like what if it doesn't work out for me for some reason at the last minute; right as we're out in the naked?
ReplyDelete-Bullwinkle
"sex and relationships are neither integrally related nor mutually exclusive."
ReplyDeletei hear that.. i said as much on my blog.. see ---> http://twoforflinchingfiveforfighting.blogspot.com/2010/06/pray-for-me-to-be-man.html <-----...
- cheers... david
Bullwinkle:
ReplyDelete"... what if it doesn't work out for me for some reason at the last minute; right as we're out in the naked?"
1) if you've gotten that far, you're probably okay.
2) Okay, I'm going to probably sound crass for saying this, but there's nothing wrong with just plain sex, without feelings or attachments. I could argue that many people simply use others as a form of assisted masturbation, but as long as it's consensual and safe(r), it's pretty much harmless.
Spending too much time worrying about what might go wrong will just make things go wrong. Enjoy the experience, don't "rush" it, and you'll be fine.
Mikey:
I dunno, I think it's better getting turned down because someone "doesn't like guys" than because they like guys but just don't like *me*.
And, I have to say, I've honestly never been attracted to a woman, so I can understand it in reverse. The issue is at least being open to the idea, even if it doesn't happen.